Connecting while in transition
Career changers told me that they consciously worked to expand their network. The value of the network is more than a numbers game, more than a process of collecting business cards and phone lists. Connections are not about treating people as objects, and friendships are not conquests. The people who emerged as leaders cared about their expanded circle. Other people are vitally important to them, no matter their calculated value to a new business enterprise.
A person in transition renews some neglected connections. Some friendships drift apart while life gets busy. The person in transition understands that all connections are important, and invests authentic emotional contact with old colleagues. Even though the career changer seeks interviews and information, sincere interest in the other person guides the process in a valued connection. If the bond was there before, the person in transition can often rekindle the connection by an honest effort.
The American writer, Ray Bradbury said, “We are cups, constantly and quietly being filled. The trick is, knowing how to tip ourselves over and let the beautiful stuff out.” Our inner life, our perceptions and rich experiences are delights to other people. Yet if we pour too much of our richness out all at once, it can scare the casual encounter. Our differences and unique configuration of values are alien to many other people. To build a great connection, pour slowly. Let other people show you how much they are ready to accept. Be bold, but not too bold, especially at first.
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This blog is an excerpt from Leaders in Transition, Chapter 5.
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Be a leader. Use imagination, career experience, and awareness of your world. Take action.
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A person in transition renews some neglected connections. Some friendships drift apart while life gets busy. The person in transition understands that all connections are important, and invests authentic emotional contact with old colleagues. Even though the career changer seeks interviews and information, sincere interest in the other person guides the process in a valued connection. If the bond was there before, the person in transition can often rekindle the connection by an honest effort.
The American writer, Ray Bradbury said, “We are cups, constantly and quietly being filled. The trick is, knowing how to tip ourselves over and let the beautiful stuff out.” Our inner life, our perceptions and rich experiences are delights to other people. Yet if we pour too much of our richness out all at once, it can scare the casual encounter. Our differences and unique configuration of values are alien to many other people. To build a great connection, pour slowly. Let other people show you how much they are ready to accept. Be bold, but not too bold, especially at first.
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This blog is an excerpt from Leaders in Transition, Chapter 5.
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Be a leader. Use imagination, career experience, and awareness of your world. Take action.
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Call me if you would like to explore your inner leader.
Posted by Steve Broe at 3/29/2011 3:00 PM 
Categories: transition, relationships, connections, Career
Tags: Steve Broe Leadership Career Impact Coaching
Categories: transition, relationships, connections, Career
Tags: Steve Broe Leadership Career Impact Coaching
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